Thousands of Failures: Persevering Through to Success

We’re moving homes, and my wife has been on a shredding mission. While reviewing file boxes that have not been opened in many years, she came across my first business head shots, taken about 20 years ago.

As a working adult, I’ve never had a job, never had a paycheck paid by somebody else. Because I’ve always been in business, I’ve never had a resume. But I’ve always had headshots. These were the first. Amazingly, my wife found not only the prints but also the negatives they came from and even the slides.

I am looking at these photos as I write this. They are spread out on my desk, just above my keyboard.

They are in a fancy office that my attorney or accountant let me use. The photographer did our wedding pictures too, because these were taken around that time. The kid in the pictures is eager, enthusiastic and also terrified. I felt, at once, on top of the world, but also I had no clue how I'd cover payroll that next month. Or the one after that.

I was running a computer consulting company, and I had employees back then. And they were far more adept at managing me than I was at managing them. I didn’t really know what I was doing — operating by feel — but I had to make it look like I knew exactly what to do.

There has been a lot of failure since these pictures were taken. Thousands of failures. Thousands of learning opportunities. Thousands of growth moments.

That business imploded when the Internet bubble burst about a year after the photos were taken. Then it took several business iterations, thousands of published and newsletter articles, hundreds of television appearances, hundreds of radio interviews, thousands of speeches and about 15 years to develop my consulting practice.

We were out of money multiple times during this extended period. There were moments when my wife believed in me more than I believed in myself. And as any salesperson knows, the customer can feel uncertainty, meekness and fear. Similarly, the customer can feel confidence, optimism and enthusiasm. Negativity is just as contagious as positivity.

Somewhere in this process, I actively chose positivity and optimism. This is what I sell now—and clients pay good money for it. In fact, as my clients apply my principles of selling boldly and begin bringing these traits of enthusiasm and value to their customers, they find that their customers also pay good money for these traits.

You will find that you are the only one who brings positivity value proactively to your customers. Everyone else — the competition! — only calls with problems and issues.

About five years ago my solo consulting practice surpassed seven figures for the first time. Last year, it tripled that amount. And my fourth book, Selling Boldly, hit the Wall Street Journal bestseller list. This year, my business will grow bigger still.

Why? Because of all the failures. All the learning. And, most importantly, all the perseverance, which has become the foundation on which my business has been built. It has become the defining characteristic of my life. Perseverance in prospecting, setting the meetings, following up, digging out of holes—and there have been many.

Salespeople, entrepreneurs and executives all fail. But then we succeed.

The ones who don’t succeed are the ones who don’t persevere enough. Either they don’t try enough times to make this way work, or they don’t try hard enough to find an alternate way.

The kid in the photos had no idea of the failures and challenges that lay ahead. The grown man with graying hair writing this today is grateful as hell for them.

Read more about perseverance in sales in Alex’s latest book, the Wall Street Journal Bestseller, Selling Boldly. See his web site at www.Goldfayn.com